Tats and Drats!

Remember when my daughter told me she wanted to get a tattoo and I tried to buy time and told her to think LONG and HARD about it?

That was a few months ago. The time has ARRIVED again.

(will she ever give this up?) --sigh, sigh, sigh--


Here's the tat my daughter wants to get.

It's the logo from her all time favorite band.

You know the one with the guy with the CRAZY hair? Isn't he so (I just veed a little in my mouth) sexy?

Yeah, Uhhh-huh!----Thoughts?

When a joke turns into a serious matter. Almost.

Did you hear the story of the lady who 'jokingly' said she should smother her daughter to make her go to sleep?

Some people read her twitter post and called the FUZZ! O-M-Gawd.

Let go of your pearls, this is a good one. I want to hear your thoughts.

Would you report her? Let's be honest, think about this for a moment. Would you?

If you're mandated by law (lawyer, teacher, police officer, etc) then, of course you would. But, what about us regular type of people? Oh wait are we all mandated as law abiding citizens to rat this person out? Did I miss my chance to rally up the troops to go and have this woman arrested?

Seriously speaking, read this post and let's discuss.

I'm conflicted on this one. I want a clear cut answer on what I would do and I can't come up with one.

Hey, I've been known to 'vent' about some tough times in my life with my son and goodness knows I've blogged my share of woes.

I remember the time I popped his hand at the supermarket Winco and the lady called me HORRIBLE? Yeah, fun times.

I can't even imagine how this mom is feeling right now. She's probably feeling BETRAYED upset and confused. Thankfully the police officers checked on the situation, found NOTHING out of the ordinary and went about their merry way.

Question:
If you read on a message board, blog or any public forum that a mom was thinking of causing bodily harm to their child, would you call the authorities and report them? She's just joking and says, "I should SMOTHER my daughter to make her go to sleep" Would you do/say something? If so, what?
There are no RIGHT or WRONG answers here. Just a topic for discussion.

What's so EXTREME about MOTHERHOOD?

By now all of America has probably watched the 20/20 segment about Extreme Motherhood.

**School aged kids still breastfeeding, Orgasms while giving birth, Fake Babies being paraded around and MORE**

Hey, the coming attractions caught my attention too. Dang on marketing people.

I personally don't care what these people choose to do for their families. I give them props for allowing the world to come into their homes and showcase what they feel are personal and close to their hearts.

Breastfeed your 6-10 year old? Go on ahead. That's YOUR choice. Don't get mad when people look at you funny or talk crap about you though.

You know, we're in America and it's a free country and people can just open their flaps to say whatever they like and you're well within your rights to smack the taste out of their mouth too. Hey, what's that saying about a tooth for an eye? Or something like that. Nevermind.

Just like I was totally SHOCKED about the fake baby segment. I knew there were men in this world buying dolls to have 'relations' with but, buying fake babies to stroll them around town? Ok, tell me more. What exactly is this about?

Once I looked more into it, some women lost babies and felt a way to connect to having a baby. This one lady took her fake baby out in town and was strolling her around like it was a cool day for school.

Another woman took her HUSBAND with her to go shopping for fake babies, buying clothes, ordering body parts. I don't know. I asked my husband if he would go with me and he wouldn't even look up from doing his crossword puzzle. See the support I get all up and through here?

My daughter kept saying: Ummm...Ewwwww...What??? HUH? NO!!! Mom, PLEASE turn the channel, my eyes are hurting. The woman is having an orgasm while giving birth.

I was quite intrigued. Instead of YELLING, SCREAMING or possibly cursing her husband for the pain, girlfriend was getting her rocks off. Now, how can I knock her for that? I would LOVE to have a silent and pleasing birth. Leave me to my own vices, the baby will be here when I get mine! So, there! Hah.

Honestly, none of it freaked me out. Made my head tilt a little but, that's just the way I process things sometimes.

The day I saw the guy from Dirty Jobs dig up inside a cow to help her deliver and he got up to his elbows, I thought I was going to lose my lunch, I didn't so maybe I'm just a bit OFF or MORBID? Who knows?

This extreme TV watching is beginning to be a bit much. It seems that I watch so much PBS and Noggin during the day, I long for some CRAZY stuff to feel like I know what's going on in the Real World.<<-----I don't like that show so, please, don't think I'm that CRAZY. The show hasn't been entertaining since Heather B fell when she was walking her dog. Now, that was COMEDY!

I need to go back to watching Cheaters. NOW that show is hilarious in its own right. The dude that got caught getting spanked by the cross dresser while he was dressed up like a Vampire hurt my sides I laughed so hard. I need to search Youtube for the footage. You'll laugh too.

Oh wait, I'm off topic huh? Sorry.

What were we talking about again?

4 year old shoots babysitter.

Headline Story:

4 year old SHOOTS his babysitter because he stepped on his foot. Ya'll think I'm making it up huh?

Click HERE
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Where is all this anger coming from? An 18 year old MALE babysitter? Another teen was injured too? Where were the parents? There's so much MISSING from this story.

One thing that is VERY evident is the fact that this little 4 year old boy has a lot of ANGER built up inside of him. Somebody made a mistake and stepped on his toe and he busts a Smith and Wesson out? WOW, just WOW.

He's definitely acting out and craving attention. Somebody go and give that boy some love. He's so lost and he's so young. Poor baby.

I pray that he gets the intervention that he readily needs.

My son is 4 years old. This story BREAKS my HEART!

On a side note: Let me go and give my son another hug just in case he gets the crazy idea to bust a cap in my azz because I forgot to put milk in his cup. :::OK, that was a joke. Sorry.::::

Lunch date with my son.

I had a $10 gift card to Cosi and thought it would be cool to take my son out for lunch.

He was more than THRILLED to munch on the flatbread cheese pizza kid's meal. I ordered a salad for my meal.

The cashier was so nice! She said he was the cutest kid ever.

Ummm...yes my dear, thank you very much, you have excellent taste. (smile)





Needless to say, he THREW down and devoured the cookie on the way home.

It was well worth the money and the food was DELICIOUS!

We will definitely make a visit there again in the near future.

If you have a Cosi in your area, try them out. I'm sure you'll enjoy it.

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Introducing the Wine and Cheese Club first pick.

Remember when my husband was talking about starting a wine and cheese club HERE?

Well, he's very SERIOUS and thinks the following wine would be AWESOME.

Wouldn't this be funny if.......I would ask him, "Honey, what are you drinking?"
and he'll say, "NOTHING" and then point to the bottle.

Well, he thought it would be HILARIOUS.

Me? I told him I want him to try it. Just go on ahead and try it.

Somebody please stop this man.

HaHa!!!

Gum lover.

My friends know how much my son LOVES GUM!

This is the most EXCITING present he has received all week.

Random thoughts about my first born.

My daughter is a woman of few words.  She's like her dad.   If she has something to say, she'll say it.  She's laid back, goes with the flow and doesn't really complain about much.  She's kind, helpful, funny and sweet.  Her room is a TIDAL wave.  I am quite concerned.  I don't say much because well, it's HER ROOM.  *sigh*

I am so PROUD of her.  I make sure to tell her that all the time and always REMIND her that her parents are her #1 cheerleaders.  She knows it but, it's always nice to hear it too.  Right?

I received a compliment about her today at lunch and I just CHEESED the entire time.  A friend of mine told me she stopped by my daughter's job just to say hello and my daughter was so sweet as ALWAYS.

Me:  Ummmm of course she was.  Look who her momma is.  HaHa!

New Thought:

So, I'm going through the most recent photos on MY LAPTOP and noticed this photo.  I asked my daughter if this was her new photo for her online dating profile.  ( I like to ask random questions just to see what I can catch her in)  She just laughed and called me crazy.  Why I gotta be crazy?

What happens when you love your parents but, hate their lifestyle. Now what.

I'm watching BirdCage.

I watched it a long time ago but, just caught it at the part where the son (who's getting married) has asked his Dad and his partner (a man) to pretty much change who they are to impress his fiance's family.

The father hatches a scheme to go along with the son's plan. This SCENE is hilarious and yet so touching at the same time.

This made me think, what if my daughter decided to get married but, was EMBARRASSED of me and her dad. How sad would this be.

So glad she's very PROUD of her parents and would jump at the chance to introduce us to her fiance.

No, she's not getting married. I'm just using this as an example.

HaHa.

My heart is heavy.

My dear sweet lovable 4 year old son has been testing my patience lately. I know it's normal at this age. I am becoming quite concerned because I've NEVER EVER EVER dealt with this type of behavior with my daughter. She's 21 and still NEVER gives me problems. I've been spoiled. I've been DUPED into thinking all my kids would be ANGELS I suppose.

I know they're TWO totally different kids, different personalities and everything.

To make matters complicated, he is the SWEETEST boy ever. This is what TRIPS me out about this kid. He's so SWEET, so LOVING and so STUBBORN! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm just getting very discouraged in my ability as a mom sometimes. I have resorted to just walking away from him. Like seriously, not even trying to deal with the falling out and his attitudes and his comebacks about every single frigging thing. If I say NO then he wants to know why. I tell him the reason and it's not good enough, he thinks of other ways to get his way.

I'm not a hard a**. I am very flexible, most days, we go with the flow, he knows what he can and cannot get away with. Something happened along the way, he has decided to say the heck with how we've been doing things, I'm going to shake things up around here! Let me test this woman. Should be fun, let's do it! Hee-Hee.

Yeah, hee-hee hell.

So, I've been tightening the reigns on his activities. I force the boy to take a rest during the day because he won't nap, so, I just enfore QUIET time where there's just STILL behavior. You can play quietly in your room, but, NONE of the running around and excitement. QUIET time for an hour at least.

I've also been wondering if he's doing too much, hey, I know we are always on the GO so, I try to limit that because maybe he's just over stimulated?

Taking stock on the food that he's eating. Making sure there are healthy food choices that won't trigger him to act a damn donkey, I don't know. What do I do?

Take tonight for instance.

Bedtime is 9pm. I don't WAVER. I don't NEGOTIATE this timeframe. He doesn't nap therefore he must be SHUT down or he will self destruct.

At 8pm, the routine begins.

Snack
Bath
Pajamas
Brush Teeth
Read Books
Good Night Kisses from the family

This usually takes about 30-40 minutes. I'm sure it could be shortened. But, for the most part it has been working. I think. Hell if I know half the time.

Well, tonight was the final frigging straw for me. I am going to up his bedtime to 8:30pm maybe he's just over tired?

After his bath, he announces that he's SOOOOOOOOOO hungry. I'm sooooooo hungry mommy. Well, I know that he's NOT hungry. He had a snack BEFORE his bath and there's NO way he's HUNGRY that fast.

NOPE. But, then I get worried what if he's REALLY hungry? It's bad enough that he's a picky eater, I would hate for him to go to bed hungry. He can't afford to lose any weight.

The whining and stalling begins. I walk him into the kitchen and tell him he can have some apple slices, OR crackers and cheese. He is adamant on rice krispy treats.

Look here little boy, I told you the choices. That's when he says:

This is not fair, I want rice krispy treats. I don't want apples or crackers and cheese.

That's when I told him the options have ended and his new option is going to bed. 

THE END.

I grabbed his hand and led him out of the kitchen and that's when he decided to fling out of my grip and fall to the floor.

STOP THE PRESSES! DID HE DO WHAT I THINK HE JUST DID?

I look at the clock, it's 9:15pm. What?????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've been in here for 15 minutes negotiating with this kid?

OH HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I pick him up, put him in the bed, give him a kiss, tell him I love him, cut off the lights and I walk out.

He SCREAMED bloody murder. Calling Daddy, Sister, Elmo, he probably called on Jesus.

Everyone in the house knows NOT to GO and rescue the boy if I am handling a situation with him.

Thankfully EVERYONE in this house supports the cause and will NOT undermine me.

Well..........after about 15 minutes of SCREAMING he became instantly QUIET.

I walked in his room and noticed he was PASSED out!

Looking all PEACEFUL and everything too.

I am failing. I have NO idea what I'm doing wrong.

My BIL says I should SPANK him.

Hey, I can't stand a sassy kid. Talking back to me? NOPE!!!!!! I will cause harm. That's why I don't spank him because I honestly think I might spank him and NEVER stop. Spanking kids are similar to adult tantrums.

You can't get your point across to your kid and since you're BIGGER, you hit them. Yeah, makes you feel superior I suppose. I'm serious. I am NOT against spanking, I just know that my tolerance level or ability to measure when to stop won't click in so, I choose to avoid the spanking if I possibly can.

I am NOT against spanking but, honestly what would a spanking solve? I'm serious. I just need some help because I'm going to lose it. Now.

He's 4.

I'm at a lost.

I'm truly not a perfect parent.

What am I doing wrong?  Where did I lose control?  Am I ALONE? Will this end?  So many questions, NO ANSWERS.

Somebody talk to me out there!

Happy New Year!

Wishing you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year!

The never ending cycle of boys and playdates.

We decided to get the boys together for a long overdue playdate yesterday. Looking back over the photos, nothing has really changed. They're so sweet here:



Then the infamous STRUGGLE over MINE, MINE, MINE ensued:



Even after all these years, NOTHING has CHANGED:
HaHa!!!



Even baby brother has resorted to getting in on the action. He dumped DJ's masterpiece and DJ started whining. I told him to get over it. That's what baby brothers are for!

He wasn't too thrilled. Baby Steven LOVED it!

HaHa.


Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!

How do you handle RUDE family members?

Question: How do you handle being offended by family?

Go on over to my favorite young man Yati's blog to give him some advice.

Wordless Wednesday--When your preschooler uses the laptop!

Post your favorite caption:

Adults need time outs too.

I've learned the best way to deal with my son's outbursts and tantrums are to IGNORE them. It's so exhausting trying to reason with a kid who is clearly set on acting UP and I have less and less patience with maintaining my calmness in these types of situations so, I just decide to ignore the outbursts and most times, he gets himself together in a matter of minutes.

I was having brunch with a friend and I mentioned when my son has meltdowns, if it's CLEAR that the situation will NOT improve, I will just put him in the room and walk away. Before I can even get steps away from the door, he's BEGGING and PLEADING for another chance promising that he'll act right. (I hope she doesn't think I abuse my child) HaHa.

On most days, I try to avoid having a meltdown with him and find when I decide to IGNORE his antics, he usually comes to his senses quicker than when I stand there and try to 'reason' with him.

Let's be honest, how do you really rationally and calmly discuss with a 4 year old exactly what his 'problem' is when he's LAID out on the floor screaming to the top of his lungs?

When he calms down, we usually discuss what happened and what made him trip. Most times he'll discuss it with me and most times he just says, he forgot why he was tripping! Hey, works for me. I always REMIND him that type of behavior will result in being REMOVED from the situation. I used to walk away from him but, then he would always FOLLOW me screaming and that became a bit annoying as well.

I remove him and let him know that he's more than welcome to join the party when he can speak clearly of what his problem is. It's my way of saving his life and maintaining my sanity. After all my job is feeding, clothing, entertaining and keeping the kids safe and alive at least until Daddy comes home then it's clock out time for me and he can deal with it.

HaHa.

Hug me.

Thanks.

Question: How do you deal with tantrums? At what age do they subside or completely disappear? Help! Thanks.

A smile goes a LONG way.

These are just my random thoughts. NOT directed towards anyone in particular. To know me, is to know that I don't mince words.

Here goes:

You know, I often wonder what makes people open their mouths to say half the stuff they say.

If a woman has 50 kids, that's HER business and what HER family chose. My goodness, unless you're going to donate to the fund, keep ya trap shut. I'm serious.

Why can't people just smile and keep it moving? No seriously. Just smile and keep it moving. No need to say, wow, you have your hands full, wow, you have a tribe, wow, your kids have energy, wow this, wow that. Just smile and keep it moving.

The EXTRA commentary?<--NOT NECESSARY!

If we're friends, then hey, you know my situation, you know my kid has energy, help me and don't judge me. But, to a total stranger in the market? The best thing you can do for someone in a jam is to smile, offer help if possible and SMILE! Seriously, a smile has saved many people. Ask me how I know.

My goodness. As you can see, I feel some type of way about this because I've gotten comments and questions that would make your head spin.

Why did you wait so long to have more kids?
Oh, so, he's your daughter's father too? I thought the huge gap in kids meant you were re-married or something.
Wow, he sure has tons of energy. Does he ever run out of steam?
What were you like 12 when you had your daughter? (all the while doing the math in their head)
Are you sure there's no other kids in between your daughter and your son?<<--Yeah, when this chick asked me that, I didn't even flinch. I gave her the look of death, like are you serious? I'm sure I would KNOW if I pissed out anymore kids in between my son and daughter. Are you high?

So, as you can see, I've heard that and much more. This is why I'm very very careful NOT to poke my nose where it doesn't belong and that's in other FOKES business.

My all time favorite, I was in line in Payless YESTERDAY buying some socks and I had an extra 20% off coupon for the purchase of boots. I wasn't going to need the coupon. I noticed the lady in front of me had a pair of boots she was going to buy. At the same time, she looks back with this FRUSTRATED look on her face because my son decided he would sing the extended version of Jingle Bells and she looks at her perfectly still son who was STARING at my son the entire time and says to her son "He's CRAZY" let's move up.

SCREEEEEEEEEEECH! Just when I was going to offer her the 20% off coupon because I noticed she was buying boots. Well, needless to say, I put the coupon in my pocket and bit my tongue because I wanted to tell her she was DUMB and that was INAPPROPRIATE to say about a little boy but, I figured hey, why bother. She has her own issues.

I didn't even stop him from singing either. HE got louder too. LOL I was so ANNOYED myself but, because it ANNOYED Mrs. Grinch, I allowed his musical "performance" to continue. I'm so nice like that.smile

Oh and one more tidbit, I have a personal friend that wanted to try and have ONE more baby hoping for a girl (they have 2 boys) and they got TRIPLETS. I lost count on the people that asked her if she was on fertility treatments, etc...My thoughts? HOW RUDE. NOT YOUR BUSINESS. DID YOU LEAVE YOUR TACT AT HOME? Needless to say, my sweet sweet friend just answered all the RUDE questions with a smile and said My 3 blessings are here that's all that matters.

See, that's why I have sweet friends, they keep me grounded. Me? I would have CUT the person at the knee caps for even asking me a RUDE question like that.

It's NONE of your business how a baby was conceived UNLESS the mother decided to share it, don't ASK it.

I'm done. What chew got?

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I already have my cart on hold at target.com

I have a feeling that I'm going to be lucky on this one.

Crossing my fingers!!!!

Do you know what the PHOBIA is up with???

Do you know what the PHOBIA is of going to the Dentist?

My son LOVES going to the dentist. He opens wide, he is so happy and loves the entire process. Very weird in my eyes but, I encourage it and hope he never changes.

Me on the other hand?--I can honestly say I don't really ENJOY going to the dentist.

I go to my 6 month appointment FAITHFULLY. I go because I want to keep my teeth well into my senior years but, other than that, I could do without going if it were up to me.

Is it the sounds of the drill? yes of course.

The smell? yes, gag, cough, gag. yuck. i have to spit OMG, I just swallowed. You jerk. Ugh!!!

The anticipated pain? umm...yes, can you say OUCH!

What are your PHOBIAS or FEARS of going to the Dentist? Do you ENJOY going?

Let's discuss.

Pampers as road kill. Tell me why?

When you see this photo what comes to mind?



Doesn't EVERYONE do this with their child's dirty diaper?

Maybe I'm TRIPPING! When I saw this is, I was DISGUSTED beyond repair.

I can recall my son having some serious blow outs and the smell warranted a quarantine sign but, I can tell you right now, I would NEVER EVER EVER have thought to do this most disgusting act right here.

I take pride in the fact that we live in a nice neighborhood so, I am just going to assume it was an out of towner. There, I feel better. Just blame it on the out of town foke to do some nasty CRAP (pun intended) like this! Hah!

Challenge: Post ONE word on your thoughts on what this person did with this diaper!

I hate google ads

I can't for the life of me figure out how to get rid of them. They are IRRELEVANT and they aren't making me any money.

Be gone already.

Nothing I've tried has worked. It's frustrating.

Google ads go away. Thanks.

Where do you shop for your family (especially kids) clothing?

Where do you shop for your family (especially kids) clothing?
Which store would you NEVER step foot in?
Which store do you LOVE?

All feedback is welcome!

Thanks.

Abercrombie Kids
babyGap
The Children's Place
Dillard's
Gymboree
J. Crew
JCPenney
Kmart
Kohl's
Limited Too
Macy's
Mervyn's
Nordstrom
Old Navy
Sears
Target
Wal-Mart
Other department stores
Other. Please Specify: _________________________________________

I need a blog makeover.

The New Year is coming!

I need a blog makeover.

I would love a Signature.
A new blog header and background.
Something easy on the eyes but, very cool and eye catching.

I'm broke.

So, if you see a contest or giveway opportunity for a blog makeover, please post the links. I'm on a mission. Need a new makeover for the new year! Thanks.

Need I say more.

Thanks.

Have you seen my brain?

Lately I've been misplacing/losing/EVERYTHING.

The phone was ringing the other day and I could NOT find the phone for the life of me.

I kept pressing the phone pager and I could hear a faint beeping but, couldn't figure out where the phone was.

When I finally located the buzzing, I opened the junk jungle and well..........



So um, yeah, if you've seen my brain, please send it to me. I've been losing everything lately. The next thing on my list are my car keys. I'm using my spare keys right now. I think I might have an idea but, every place I've checked hasn't turned up the keys. I'm getting nervous now.

I know I need to organize this spot, or as my husband tells me throw everything out in that jungle, I've yet to come to terms and just stuff crap in there and close the door.

*sigh*

Maybe the Organizing Junkie will take pity on me and send some tips my way! HaHa.